The best and worst thing about the internet is its anonymity. We’re all tasked with creating online personas from time to time but when it comes to online dating profiles you generally get to be as honest as you want to be. Unfortunately for the Romantics At Heart out there some singles take it upon themselves to embellish their awesomeness or even create totally fantasy identities when they put themselves out there online. Once you know what to look for you’ll find it easy enough to root out dating site Pinocchios…here some advice from all of us here at DatingSitesXO.
IF IT SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT PROBABLY IS.
No, but seriously. Ask yourself: what “part-time model” who pulls in $100,000 a year while simultaneously volunteering at the animal shelter, recording music and studying French pastry really needs help finding love online? True, there are plenty of diamonds in the rough and lots of online daters (like you!) are gems just waiting to be discovered. Typically, though, people who really are Too Good To Be True don’t go around bragging about it. You won’t really know they’re awesome until you’ve struck up a conversation or two, you dig?
TOO MANY SPECIFICS SHOULD SOUND YOUR ALARM BELLS.
The thing about dating IRL is that most people have learned over time to detect subtle body language that implies untruthfulness. Once you’re on the web all those cues go out the window…except one. Truly crafty liars are SO good at creating a fiction that sounds convincing they’re sometimes their own downfall, if you know what to look for. A dating profile with too many numbers (“43 sexual partners,” or “$750,000 yearly salary”) or one mentioning specific people (“My BFF Kanye”) should be believed with caution. Fibbers add specifics to convince you of their honesty, but you’re too smart to fall for that, right?
DOES SOMETHING JUST SEEM…OFF? ABOUT THAT PROFILE PIC?
Anyone who’s used dating sites for long knows the true danger of online dating liars is all wrapped up in the all-important profile picture. This is when you simply have to trust your gut: does something just feel all wrong about that great looking profile pic? Maybe it’s Instagramed within an inch of its life, or perhaps it’s cropped sostinkingmuch you wonder if something’s hiding just out of frame, or maybe it just doesn’t seem to match up to the person whose words you’re reading? Pictures aren’t the end-all-be-all but a totally fake one sure does cast doubt as to whether a match is, you know, honest. Everyone puts their best picture forward, even if they’re now slightly heavier or have since gotten a terrible haircut. The trick is knowing which photo sets off your internal red flags.
A PROFILE’S HISTORY IS LIKE ITS RESUME.
Many dating sites tell you how long members have been, well, members. You don’t necessarily want to be the guy or girl who’s a founding member of Match.com but you don’t want to be brand spankin’ new, either. Fake profiles or quick-replacement profiles are easily created but the one thing they can’t embelish is their age. In the same way you should be skeptical if a profile seems overly translated or too-well written you should also think twice if a profile’s too new.
Dating sites aren’t the dangerous, seedy underground many people unfortunately think they are. There are millions of high quality singles looking for love online right this minute – the trick is knowing where to look and what to pass by. Putting yourself out there means making yourself vulnerable but being vulnerable doesn’t mean being helpless. Defending yourself from fakers and heartbreak online is as easy having a skeptical eye, but remember to always keep your heart open. No one likes a jaded grump.